Vision

Nature has bestowed each child with unique gifts; a child, by nature, is curious and pure and these are the two special gifts on which the child can depend upon and with which, they can experiment in their lives. My goal is to search, together with the child for his/her natural talents or strengths, so that she/he learns to deal with the difficult things that come up on their paths, be it at home or school.

Therefore, I always look at a child with a holistic view. This means how the child thinks about him/herself, what are her/his innermost feelings, and how he/she reacts in specific situations. How does the situation, the behavior of the parents and other siblings impact the child? How does the child handle the conflict situations, setbacks, and change in different situations such as, at home, at school, and with friends? It is also important to know how the child sees himself and what image does the child has about himself and his environment.

I believe that a child does not always have a problem, but has skills to always learn something. For these children and their parents, I would like to use my knowledge and experience in the form of coaching.

With Patangam children's coaching, I am going to offer what I missed in counseling, namely, increase the strengths of the child instead of the complaints.

Children from a migrating background

Children who have a migrating background, also have different norms and values, customs, and manners. However, they also learn the norms and values, customs, and new manners that they come across in this country. Both, for the parents and the children, living in a foreign country, requires a lot of courage and perseverance. Raising younger children in a cross-cultural society is an added challenge for the parents.

For who?

The child coaching program is meant for boys and girls from 4 to 18 years old. It could be that you need temporary support because things are not going well at school or home; or, you have the feeling that you are stuck in a situation and have no idea as to how to proceed. Do you recognise yourself in one or more of the situations given below and would you like to talk to someone about it? Please remember, asking for help makes you unique, not because you don't know something but because you want to take good care of yourself and feel good about yourself.

Here are a few examples of the issues where you may ask me for help:

You fret about a lot, you feel as if your head is full, as a result you can’t sleep well
You have difficulty connecting with your peers
You have trouble expressing your emotions / feelings and thoughts
You find it difficult to deal faced with various types of situations
You worry about your best friend
You worry about your parents. You feel that others do not understand you.
You worry about your grades at school
You are being bullied at school or you are bullying someone
You are bothered by the fights or divorce of your parents
You find it hard to stand up for yourself and say no to others
You have difficulty finding your way in the Dutch society.
You have problems because you are raised in two cultures
Or, do you have a different question?

When you and your parents realise that things are not going well for you, you may contact me telephonically. You can discuss your concerns and point out the issues, which you as a child, are troubled with. Through this conversation, we will determine if child coaching program fits the needs of the child. If this is the case, we will look for a form of support and set out ways to achieve it.

It can also be that parents need a parent meeting and parenting support. If this also appears to be the case, we will make an appointment for an intake meeting and I will send an intake form with a questionnaire for your parents. During the intake interview, we shall together discuss what kind of support would be the best and what would be needed to attain that.